Long-Distance Relationships Can Work (Even During A Pandemic)
- carablackhall7
- Feb 8, 2021
- 4 min read
Being in a long-distance relationship isn’t as straight as forward as people make it seem and if you have already had to deal with being in a long-distance relationship before Covid-19, then you are most likely clued up about how to keep the spark alive from afar. However, no matter how much you may love each other, committing to a long-distance relationship can be scary and it can be hard to imagine how your relationship will survive the distance between you both.
Being in a relationship is comfortable. You get so used to their presence and you become a package deal. No more of just ‘you’, it’s ‘us’ now. It can be scary to imagine yourself out of that routine, especially when that routine is so revolved around another person.
The people around you will say – from their own experiences - that a long-distance relationship is set for heartbreak and it will not work, but I don’t think this is the case. If you want to make a relationship work, then you need to be committed to work for that.
By the end of this article, I believe you may change your mind about long-distance relationships and will start to realise that there is a false stigma surrounding them. Don’t be scared!
Read on to find out some top tips to help your relationship survive long-distance throughout the pandemic and beyond:
1. Plan when you’re going to talk
It’s important to make time for each other when you’re in a long-distance relationship. When you’re planning times to speak to each other, choose a time that you can commit to, doing so will allow your partner to feel like they’re important to you and they’re a priority in your life. It may also be a good idea to discuss how long you’ll be able to talk that day, to avoid any disappointment.
“You don’t want to be tired and grumpy when you talk.”
If your partner is somebody who already struggles with insecurities, speaking to them when you’re not feeling like it could make it seem like you don’t want to speak at all. Receiving an unanswered text or blunt answer during a conversation could mean a whole lot more than you think.
2. Learn to love yourself
You can’t love someone else until you first learn to love yourself. I’m sure everyone has heard that saying countless times, and it’s because its true.
Being in a long-distance relationship means spending a lot more time without them and spending more time with yourself, this can sometimes make us feel insecure and lead to worried feelings about whether or not they are remaining loyal. In order to not feel this way, loving yourself is key.
Keep yourself busy and have time to yourself. Binge watch Netflix, dedicate more time to your studies, pick up a new hobby or simply spend more time chatting to your friends – these are all ways you can distract yourself from feeling insecure. Your other half will have their own schedule, you need to adapt to this and find your own routines.
3. See long-distance as an opportunity for your relationship
“I would rather be here, far from you, but feeling really close, rather than close to you but feeling really far away.” — EMMA, GLEE SEASON 4
Committing to a long-distance relationship could be seen as a test for your love for each other. Both of you should believe that the time you are spending apart, will pull you closer together in the future. Think about how great it will be when you no longer have to be apart and how satisfying it will be to know just how much you both managed to get through and achieve whilst working together to do so.
4. Stay honest
Communication and honesty are key in any relationship but even more so when there is distance between you. Communicate your feelings of sadness, jealousy, confusion, fear or whatever it is you may be feeling in that moment. Nothing should be hidden between you, especially when you are dealing with a long-distance relationship.
Don’t bottle things up. Allow your partner to support you and help you with what you need. If you need reassurance, let them give it to you. If you feel scared, allow them to change that. If you’re confused, let them try and clear things up. At the end of the day, you’re a team. Work together to make things right.
5. Positivity (it is more important than you know)
I know it may be hard to stay positive throughout a long-distance relationship all of the time, especially when there are miles and miles between you, but positive energy is so important.
Be happy, grateful and content that your partner is in your life and someone loves and cares about you. There is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel, and one day, you may never have to be apart again.
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